Conquering changeHave you ever felt like you’re between a rock and a hard place?  Like you don’t have any options and you’re stuck?  We can feel frustrated and powerless in the place.  And my suggestion to you is that there are ALWAYS options when you have the 3 beliefs to master change.

1.  I can create my experience.  Every moment of every day we perceive the world around us as a reflection of what’s going on in our psyche. In other words, who we are at the core impacts how we experience the world.  So if you want to change your experience, change your Self.  Do the work – whether it’s personal growth, spiritual, or professional development – do the work to transform yourself, in order to change your experience of life.  I worked with a woman who had a challenging relationship with her father in her family-based business.  While in my office that day, she transformed her perspective and understanding of that relationship, and that was the day her relationship with her dad changed for good.  Do the inner work, to create a better life experience.

2.  I can choose how I respond. With every experience, we have a choice how we respond, but first we must believe we have that choice. A very wise man once said to me “No one can make you feel anything!!” This can be a difficult pill for some to swallow because it’s human nature to blame those around us for how we’re feeling.  You get to choose your feelings by choosing your thoughts, beliefs, and physiology… unless you want to continue to give away your power and not take responsibility for your life.  Choose your response (consciously) or react (unconsciously). The choice is yours.

3.  I can handle whatever comes my way. …and I will be ok. This belief is at the heart of empowerment and resilience. Every time I learn a skill, I’m empowered. Every time I adapt to a new circumstance, I’m resilient. Every time I lean on my network for support, or tap a new resource, or resolve an old pain, I’m strengthening my foundation and increasing my flexibility.  The more you stretch and grow and flex, the better able to handle unexpected events you become.  Think of it like building a muscle. You build muscle by working it regularly in a cyclic pattern of stretch-and-heal. Stretch into the new every day, and you’ll be better able to handle whatever comes your way!

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Until next time,

Sue

 

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