Are you a Realist?

Sue McKeeI used to be an optimist, actually more like a Pollyanna. Everything was always great – I only saw the positive in situations and ignored the uncomfortable, negative stuff. Now I’m a realist. I accept what is, and recognize what’s out of my control, and then choose to respond in areas where I do have control. You see, realism is accepting what is. The opportunity that’s often missed is then choosing something new in the next moment, in response to what is. It doesn’t mean giving up, or rolling over and playing dead.

Activist Dave Pollard writes in his “how to save the world” blog:

No one is in control. The enemy, if there is one, is not a cabal of elites, but a set of co-dependent collapsing systems that every one of us has a vested interest in trying (insanely) to perpetuate. Systems we have all helped co-create and are almost all dependent on…The question we must each ask ourselves, I think, is this: If we acknowledge that our systems and hence our civilization cannot be reformed or ‘saved’, what can we do now that will make a real difference, for the future, in our communities and for those we love?…The insanely rational answer to this question, I think, is (a) probably nothing, and (b) it’s too early to know.

I disagree with Dave

What we can do is live like we’re dying.

Because we are all dying; we just don’t know when. So why not live like it’s your last months on earth?

Live like your life matters

Activism doesn’t have to mean huge initiatives that shift gigantic gorilla systems a mere millimeter. Activism can be living your life the way you want the world to be and modelling that for others to follow.

I’ve adapted this list from Bronnie Ware’s book “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, to give you…

The Rules to Live By (So You Don’t Take Regrets to the Grave)

1. Live true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.
2. Stop working so hard.
3. Find the courage to express your feelings
4. Stay in touch with your friends
5. Let yourself be happier

I challenge you to find ONE good reason to not do the above 5 things. It doesn’t matter if the human race is facing near-term extinction or if you’re going to live another 50 years, there is no reason to go to the grave with regrets about not having done these things.

So… live like you’re dying.

Live life like it matters

If you found out you had cancer and had just months to live, what would you change?

If you were living in a war-torn country and never knew when it would be your last day, what would you say or do differently?

If you were a member of species that was addicted to fossil fuels and were irreversibly destroying the only planet you had to call home, how would you change your life??

Let’s get this party started shall we?!

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As always, I welcome your feedback! Please leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one, via the commentluv feature right here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

 

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The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

self sufficiency mythThere’s a global movement afoot that is focused on self-reliance and self-sufficiency, and while I am a huge advocate and trainer in this lifestyle choice, I have noticed that most people have misinterpreted the true meaning of it, and risk falling into the trap and myth of self-sufficiency.

At first glance, the notion of self-sufficient living is a noble dream; to live resourcefully and empowered, getting all your needs met from within your homestead or hobby farm, and to be disconnected from the fragile and crumbling systems that our modern industrial civilization has come to depend on.

There’s an idealistic image of a cabin in the woods, away from the bustle of civilization and the rat race of career advancement, with peace and solitude blanketing the home and property.  Often there’s a pond nearby in this dream, with some Muskoka chairs to sit and reflect on the water that’s as smooth as glass.

Well I’m here to tell you that dream is a crock. It’s near impossible unless you have been training and honing the necessary skills for most of your life.  And even if you have the skill set to make a go of it by yourself or with your family, the isolation will drive you batty.  …this coming from a classic introvert who relishes my solitude!

Here’s why self-sufficiency is a myth…

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12 Surefire Signs You’re On the Path to Burnout

BurnoutThere’s an epidemic in our society that is stripping the joy and fun out of life, and often we can’t even see that it’s happening. It’s called burnout, and you might be a victim of this insidious ailment that has afflicted so many.  Here are 12 sure-fire signs that you’re on the path to burnout (even if you don’t know it yet).

  1. You’re feeling stressed all the time
  2. You’re short-tempered and impatient
  3. You’re not getting enough sleep
  4. You’re not exercising enough
  5. You lost touch with friends for weeks or months at time
  6. You’re not having enough (any?) fun or you overdo it on fun in short bursts and then have to recover
  7. You don’t feel happy or joyful most of the time
  8. Your schedule so busy that you have no room for the intimate relationship you desire… or the one that you have
  9. You crash or tune-out using drugs, alcohol, shopping, working, or Netflix binge watching
  10. Your kids say things like “Mommy why are you working all the time?” and “Daddy will you play with me” and you keep on working
  11. You isolate yourself because it takes too much effort and energy to be with people
  12. You know something’s wrong but you regularly think to yourself:
  • …“I can do this, hang tough.”
  • …”I can handle it”
  • …”It’s not that big a deal.”
  • …”I’ll be through the crunch next week.” (but you’ve said that 5+ times in the past 2 months)
  • …”It’ll sort itself out.”
  • …”If I ask for help people will think I’m weak.”

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When the Next Blackout Hits Will you be Ready?

self sufficiencyWhen the Next Blackout hits Will You be Ready? Here in North America we’ve been bombarded with winter storms and extreme temperatures this winter. It seems that almost every week there is a city or state in the US declaring a state of emergency due to heavy snow, winds, and electricity outages.  We had our turn over the holidays here in Canada with hundreds of thousands of people across Ontario, Quebec and the Maritimes without power for days, many of them for over a week. There were thousands of cold, hungry and miserable families who eventually relocated to a friend’s home, a hotel, or a public warming station.

This will happen again.

Are you going to be ready next time?

Weather patterns are becoming more extreme with climate change, and our old electricity grid is fragile and vulnerable to wind, ice, lightning and snow storms.

Blackouts are the new normal.

So what will you do to ensure your family is safe, warm and well fed during the next natural disaster?  Short of planning an evacuation location, building resilience and self-sufficiency is the only way to ensure peace of mind knowing you can weather any chaos, in the comfort of your own home.

For some, a self-sufficiency plan involves knowing their family will be able to thrive for 2 weeks without power and basic services.  For others, their dream of self-sufficiency is to be living off the grid, able to meet all their family’s basic needs for a year or more!

It takes fore-thought and planning and yes, change; doing research, uncovering the options, and making sound decisions.  Your self-sufficiency plan is not something to be taken lightly.  It could mean the difference between your family’s comfort and safety, and their panic and heartbreak.

Leadership Unleashed is proud to announce the new Earth Wisdom Living program,

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It’s an online group training program that you can take from the comfort of your home or office.  We walk you through every aspect of planning for your family’s self-sufficiency, so you can build a plan that aligns with your core values, vision, budget, risk tolerance, and sense of urgency.

EARTH WISDOM LIVING is for you if you’re aware of the rapid and risky changes in the world and you want to live with a smaller footprint, more connected to the land, and in more empowered and resourceful way, but you’re not sure where to start, you’re overwhelmed with the options or you feel trapped by our current culture’s lifestyle options.

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I welcome your feedback!  Please leave a link back to your own blog too via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

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The 3 Beliefs to Master Change

Conquering changeHave you ever felt like you’re between a rock and a hard place?  Like you don’t have any options and you’re stuck?  We can feel frustrated and powerless in the place.  And my suggestion to you is that there are ALWAYS options when you have the 3 beliefs to master change.

1.  I can create my experience.  Every moment of every day we perceive the world around us as a reflection of what’s going on in our psyche. In other words, who we are at the core impacts how we experience the world.  So if you want to change your experience, change your Self.  Do the work – whether it’s personal growth, spiritual, or professional development – do the work to transform yourself, in order to change your experience of life.  I worked with a woman who had a challenging relationship with her father in her family-based business.  While in my office that day, she transformed her perspective and understanding of that relationship, and that was the day her relationship with her dad changed for good.  Do the inner work, to create a better life experience.

2.  I can choose how I respond. With every experience, we have a choice how we respond, but first we must believe we have that choice. A very wise man once said to me “No one can make you feel anything!!” This can be a difficult pill for some to swallow because it’s human nature to blame those around us for how we’re feeling.  You get to choose your feelings by choosing your thoughts, beliefs, and physiology… unless you want to continue to give away your power and not take responsibility for your life.  Choose your response (consciously) or react (unconsciously). The choice is yours.

3.  I can handle whatever comes my way. …and I will be ok. This belief is at the heart of empowerment and resilience. Every time I learn a skill, I’m empowered. Every time I adapt to a new circumstance, I’m resilient. Every time I lean on my network for support, or tap a new resource, or resolve an old pain, I’m strengthening my foundation and increasing my flexibility.  The more you stretch and grow and flex, the better able to handle unexpected events you become.  Think of it like building a muscle. You build muscle by working it regularly in a cyclic pattern of stretch-and-heal. Stretch into the new every day, and you’ll be better able to handle whatever comes your way!

I’d love your feedback! And don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

 

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Change Scares Me. I Hate Change.

people who hate changePeople have been telling me that change is scary; that they’d do anything to avoid it, they hate change so much.

“Apple made me finally update my phone. I hate change.”

“I got a promotion. Change scares me.”

“Looking at old photos depressed me. I hate change.”

“Finally dyeing my hair. It’s gonna be red. Change scares me.”

“New people on the team. I hate change.”

Now I know there may be a few of you out there who actually like change and get excited about it, but you need to know that you are quite rare. Most people don’t like change.

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3 Reasons Why People Stay Busy – The Busy Syndrome

bigstock-Balance-Spheres-Shows-Balanced-51984634a We’re heading into our busiest time of year, the holiday season, and yet, don’t you find that it’s busy all year long?!  As the commercials recently are saying, Is that good busy? Or not so good busy?  I’ve noticed some interesting things we do and say that are completely counter to what we truly want…something I call the ‘busy syndrome’. “Hi, how are you?” “Oh, I’m SO busy!” <smile>  (as if that’s a good thing) Sometimes it is a good thing, and, often it’s not.  What are your life balance goals?  What are your work or business goals?  Do they include being busy every waking hour? Is it your desire to be booked up with work, volunteer, and family commitments every day and most evenings? Who wants that? Yet, most of you have built your lives this way.  Why? Read more

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The 3 Causes of our Anger Management Epidemic

Anger management tecniquesAlthough it’s the butt of many jokes and the basis for a comedy movie with Jack Nicholson and a recent TV series with Charlie Sheen, anger management has become one of the most socially-dysfunctional, yet preventable issues in our culture.  Have you given any thought to the causes of this anger management epidemic?

Why do we have road rage, and restraining orders, and anger management classes in elementary schools?!

Anger is avoided like a disease, until it explodes.

There are 3 reasons why western cultures can’t manage anger…

  1. No one taught us how to be with anger. If you grew up in some European families, you’d hear yelling and arguing on a daily basis, without hard feelings, and always ending in hugs. In North America, we weren’t taught how to be angry because anger wasn’t acceptable. Period.
  2. We have limiting beliefs about anger. Most of us we’re raised to ignore or suppress our natural anger because we were told that “Good girls don’t get angry.” And “Angry boys are mean.” You may also hold a limiting belief that ‘anger is dangerous’ because you experienced violence with anger growing up. The possible beliefs about anger that are no longer serving you are endless.
  3. Old, residual anger from the past has not been managed so it comes rushing forward in the moment we feel the slightest bit of anger, and amplifies our emotion and our reaction. Usually it’s uncontrollable. And usually we regret it afterwards.

What most of us never learned is that…

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The 3 Secrets to Positive Thinking

positive thinking I thought it might be helpful to share 3 secrets to positive thinking, because everyone wants to be happy.  Everyone likes to be around positive people.  Everyone likes a happy ending.

So why is there so much focus on doom and gloom in the world?  The news is all about crime, disasters and war.  Bosses and teachers talk about what’s wrong with the work but rarely what is good.  People are filled with fear and dread, and are living their lives wondering when the other shoe is going to drop, or “what next?!”.

It takes focus and determination to avoid being sucked in to the negativity around you.  And sometimes you forget that…

You are always at choice about how you think and feel.

And you can choose to think positively any time.

  1. AIM. Know what you want.  It feels good to get clear on what you want.  Often we know what we don’t want, but we don’t take the next steps to say, “if not that, then what?”.  We experience contrast every day that can be used to get clearer and clearer on our dreams and goals.  Whenever you notice something you don’t want, turn it into a new detail about what you do want.  Aim.
  2. ENERGIZE. Choose your thoughts using your emotions.  Use your emotional guidance system to tell you when to change your thinking.  If it feels bad, let the thought go.  If it feels good, focus on it. Daydream about what you want, as often as you can, so that your positive emotions will drive your behavior toward what you want.
  3. BELIEVE. Expect it.  Set the intention for it.  Believe it will be.  Expect it to happen any moment.  The anticipation is not only fun, but it feels good too.  Some people don’t want to get their hopes up in case they end up disappointed, but then they spend the entire time being negative about it.  Wouldn’t it be better to get excited and believe and anticipate it, until it arrives?

So, go ahead, turn that negative thought into a positive one and enjoy yourself.

Life’s more fun that way!

Let me know what you think! I would love your feedback. And don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until then, be resilient.

Sue

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Are You Hiding Your Truth?

speak your truth

We human beings are notorious for skirting around the truth.  We are so concerned with ‘keeping the peace’ and wanting everyone to like us, that we completely give away our personal power by hiding our truth.

“I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself?” 

Oriah Mountain Dreamer, The Invitation

Because if we can’t live our truth then what are we living?  Someone else’s expectations.  Our own “shoulds”.  Society’s drone norms.

You are meant to live your truth.  In its highest form. Which will be constantly evolving as you expand.

When you live your truth, you must also speak it.  And that truth may not be popular. It may not be pretty or neat or easy to swallow.

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